If you do not want to have children it is perfectly valid, since being parents is a titanic task for which not all of us are prepared. However, when this preference becomes a fear, it acquires a pathological character and we are talking about a disorder known as Pedophobia.
And we mention it this way, because it is not normal to feel fear for the little ones. Children are innocent creatures who come into this world to play and learn. Babies need us and they need constant attention and care during the first months to learn how the world around them works.
To speak of pedophobia is to mention one of the most common psychological phobias today, contributing significantly to the decline of the birth rate in developed countries. This irrational fear (like all phobias) of children is causing inscrutable damage to society, changing and affecting the regeneration of the social fabric.
The fact that you don’t like children will never justify treating them badly or discriminating against them as if they were undesirable monsters. Mistreating them or discriminating against them because of their age will leave indelible traces in their subconscious until they become a kind of trauma that will be a major obstacle to move forward into the future successfully.
If you feel identified with everything you have read so far, stay because this post is for you. This article seeks to educate and inform the population about pedophobia and how it can be adequately treated, considering how much ignorance there is about pedophobia.
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It is defined as the irrational fear of being close to children or babies, conceiving them as a threat to their integrity. Pedophobia involves anxiety attacks that can be uncontrollable, affecting the daily life of the person who suffers from this disease and even affecting the person’s mood and physical condition.
It is not only considered to be one of the rarest phobias in the world, but also quite complex to treat. When we walk down the street, go shopping or even dine at a restaurant we will find a lot of families with small children, which makes it impossible to avoid contact with them.
The term pedophobia is derived from the words “Paido” and “Phobia” which, translated from Latin to English, mean “Child” and “Phobia” respectively.
Each case is a real universe to be explored. There are those who suffer from pedophobia due to very hard circumstances they lived through during their childhood, where they had to assume a position of premature maturity to face them and prevent bad actions of third parties from affecting their existence.
This made them see children as something sublime, who “do not deserve to come to this world to suffer all the calamities that marked them when they were small”. This fear is also often rooted in unnatural and irresponsible parents, who were physically present but were not able to transmit this filial love to their children to the point of making them feel like “unwanted hindrances”.
Are we exaggerating? Not at all! Almost all pedophobia patients come from broken homes with extreme affective deficiencies, due to the fact that one of the 2 parents was absent or received derogatory treatment because of their condition as children.
If, after seeing or being in direct contact with a child under 12 years of age, you experience any of these conditions, it is important that you see a doctor immediately.
Do not take any drugs such as painkillers, as this can exacerbate your mood to the maximum.
Yes, of course. The detail is that an exhaustive analysis must be made beforehand in order to know if you really have pedophobia or if you simply do not like children. For this, you will be subjected to several psychological tests where they will inquire about your family background and how the parental-filial relationships have been developing. You will also have to answer several questions in relation to your childhood, stating if there was any special incident that may have marked you considerably.
In case of a positive result, you will be subjected to exposure therapy. And what does this consist of? Simple! You will be in physical contact for 2-3 hours with those children who radiate so much panic in your person. These cognitive-behavioral sessions will be gradual, increasing in man hours until you manage to overcome this pedophobia that does not let you live in peace.
Pedophobia can never be normalized by thinking that “it is not the most appropriate time to bring children into the world”. Each child is a seed that is beginning to germinate, which deserves proper care to become a spectacular plant that is able to bring countless positive things in their environment.
If you are afraid of children to the point of verbally abusing them and engaging in harmful actions towards them, let me tell you that you should seek professional help. Your bad childhood does not have to drag a new generation down, causing them traumas that are difficult to overcome.
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