How to help your child to become more positive

Positive or negative attitudes develop in us from a very early age and direct our view of the world. Negative thoughts (“I’m going to do badly”) produce a negative view of the child (“I’m bad”). For this reason we should try to avoid generalizations (“this time you didn’t do as well as yesterday” instead of “you did badly”). The majority of people act and react to our environment based on unconscious patterns acquired during childhood.. Almost without realizing it, those thought tendencies limit or expand us. That’s why it’s important to help your children develop a positive attitude.

This inclination towards positive or negative thinking begins to anchor itself very early in our psyche, and begins to direct our perception of events around us.and begins to direct our perception of the events around us. We must, therefore, begin as soon as possible to train the mind of our little ones towards the great gift that is a positive attitude.

When we generalize (we use the all, never, never, always…), we create a label. Thought distortion is an inadequate way of thinking that generates in children a distorted vision of who they are, preventing them from seeing reality, negatively affecting their mood and maladjusted behavior.

One way to help him is to offer him an alternative instead of judging (for example: If he makes a mistake in a game, we could say “look, if you do it this way you will do better”, instead of saying “you did it wrong”, and not giving him the option to improve).

We do not see what is, but what we are.

For some time now, the cognitive currents of psychology have been postulating that each one of us interprets reality through our own filter composed of our beliefs. That is to say, between what really happens and what I perceive there is a space in which our mind operates.

For most of us, this filtering process goes unnoticed and we simply take for granted that what I perceive is reality, and that this is the only possible reality. On the other hand, if we are able to become aware of this process, we will understand why some people see life in pink and others in dark gray.

Helping your children to have a positive attitude

Help them develop a healthy internal dialogue. Get them used to saying to themselves, “I am capable, I can do better, I can do it.”
Be a model of positivity and optimism. Try to show yourself as someone cheerful, stable and confident in yourself and in life.
Teach them the value of negative emotions. Help them know how to identify them, feel them and listen to their message. As well as to know how to transcend them, learning from them, instead of stagnating in them.
Train them to be their own center, to remember to look for balance and happiness in themselves and not in other people’s opinions.
Explain to them that it is healthy and acceptable to stay away from toxic environments and people. And in case they have to live with them, they should have a mental shield of protection so that this negativity does not penetrate them.
Try to instill in them the importance of self-care. Healthy habits such as good nutrition, frequent physical exercise and contact with nature. Emphasizes introspection as a beneficial way of listening to and getting to know oneself, and contact with others as a way of enriching and sharing.
Always remind them that life is full of beauty, of people who love them, of opportunities to enjoy. And that bad times always serve to strengthen us and help us rediscover how much love and support we have around us.